Confidence plays a major role in the success you create for yourself. When you are confident, you are more outgoing and pursue opportunities that others would consider too difficult to attain. Confidence can make you feel invisible — believing you possess the ability to accomplish anything you set your sights on achieving.
On the other hand, people who suffer from a lack of confidence rarely pursue opportunities because they do not believe in themselves. Their lack of confidence causes them to question themselves a lot, later regretting their decision of not having more belief in themselves. They sit back looking at the success of others and become miserable that they do not have the same success.
If you are a person who lacks confidence, you need to quickly build up your confidence if you want to increase the success you experience in your life. Instead of constantly holding yourself back, you need to propel yourself forward and take the risk. The people who are successful are the ones who pursued opportunities despite the risk that came with those opportunities.
If you want to learn how to improve your confidence, you will first need to know what confident people do not do. This will help you avoid the common behavior associated with people who lack confidence in themselves.
1) Do not make excuses
Excuses are nothing but a lie you tell yourself to free you from being accountable for your actions. You will find that people who lack confidence make a lot of excuses to ignore the fact that they are the reason for their failure. No one but you can hold yourself back from achieving the goals you have set for yourself. If you believe otherwise, then you do not believe that you control your own life.
Confident people understand that they are the one who is in control of their life. Therefore, they operate with the mindset of taking control of any situation they are presented with. They understand that trying to place blame on someone or something is just a waste of time. It is better to find a solution to a problem, rather than complaining about why the problem exists.
2) Stop waiting for permission to act
When you do not believe you control your life, you wait for other people to give you permission to act. This leads living your life through someone else. That is not living life, you are merely existing. There are too many people who are already existing in this world. You want to be one of the people who is actually living.
Confident people do not wait for someone else to give them the go ahead to make a decision, they make decisions on their own. When you take control of your life by taking control of what goes on around you, you will discover that your life becomes more enjoyable. You are not a prisoner in your life– you are the architect designing the life you desire.
3) Do not quit
If you give up the first sign of something going wrong you are a person who will not go very far in life. Life is full of ups and downs. If the downs keeping you from reaching the ups then you are living a life is unfulfilled. Folding under pressure indicates that you are a weak person who needs constant guidance and safety in order to exist in the world.
Confident people recognize that challenges are learning lessons that help them gain more knowledge. Instead of giving up due to their problems, they learn what went wrong in order to create a solution. Everything is an educational moment, rather good or bad for confident people. As long as they learn how to improve themselves, they do not allow problems to cause them to quit pursuing their ambitions.
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4) Do not seek attention
People who constantly seek attention are people who need an approval to feel confident. When you are constantly seeking approval, you are never satisfied with yourself. When you are not satisfied with yourself, you make a fool of yourself in order to gain the attention of people. Not only does your attention seeking turn people away, but it also makes you feel miserable when you are alone thinking about how you constantly make a fool of yourself.
Confident people deflect attention away from themselves and place it on others. They are aware of their accomplishments and their abilities, so they are not reminded about their attributes. It brings them more enjoyment when they can make others feel confident about themselves so that they can accomplish more.
5) Do not seek constant praise
Constantly seeking praise means that you need validation to feel confident. Your confidence is based on what people feel about you. If they like you, then you feel good about yourself. If they dislike you, then you lose confidence and try to seek their approval. This is a miserable existence because your happiness in life is not real. Your happiness is based on a false reality.
Confident people do not seek praise because it is based on how people feel about you at that moment. The next minute people can have a different opinion about you based on how their own life is going. This is why confident people do not need the praise. As long as they are accomplishing their goals and living life on their own terms, they are happy about life.
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6) Do not put things off
Putting your goals and initiatives off till later is a sign of laziness and fear. People procrastinate because they do not believe in their ability to accomplish their goals. Therefore, they make up an excuse as to why they can wait till tomorrow, next month, or next year. All the while they look at the lives of others who are living their dreams and wonder why they cannot do the same. They refuse to acknowledge which leads to the biggest downfall.
Confident people feverishly work towards accomplishing their goals because they understand their time is limited. The more time the waste, the less life they have to live on their own terms. If goals have been set with a due date, they work extremely hard to reach their target. They take action and produce results in the process.
7) Do not pass judgment
People who lack confidence are always trying to figure out how they are better than someone else. They create an inflated ego that is based off their self-created beliefs of how they compare to the people around them. Usually, no one else holds the great opinion they have established for themselves — it is the exact opposite, they are despised.
Confident people understand that each person holds a quality that makes them unique. They focus on this unique quality rather than trying to find the bad in people. It is better to determine what makes people great, instead of trying to make yourself appear better than them. This will help you attract more people to you because you make others feel good about themselves.
8) Do not avoid conflict
When you lack confidence you avoid conflict so that you do not have to face uncomfortable situations. This takes you through a life where you are taken advantage of and have a lot of built up anger because you do not express your true feelings. The more your avoid conflict, the more miserable you become.
Confident people do not avoid conflict because it leads to small problems growing into bigger problems. Instead, they choose to pursue conflict resolution in order to resolve any issues they feel need to be handled. This allows them to express their feeling while learning the feeling of others. This leads to mutual understanding being accomplished and a better relationship with the people around them.
9) Do not let a lack of resources stop your pursuits
When you allow what you do not have to get in the way of what you want, you live a life that never reaches its potential. Complaining about what you lack only keeps you in the same state of existence. Complaining accomplishes nothing other than you reminding yourself about how your life is not where you want it to be. But, it will never change if all you do is complain, allowing your current circumstances to determine your future.
Confident people are resourceful — getting what they want despite what they lack. They understand that the life you want will only be produced if you work hard to accomplish your vision despite the obstacles. If they lack money, they make more money. If they lack connections, they meet the right people. Nothing holds them back from living the life they want to live.
If you lack confidence, you will not live the life that you envision in your head. In order to live a life that you are proud of, you need to gain the confidence to take control of your life.
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